"Where there is kindness there is goodness, where there is goodness there is magic."
Being in traffic with Caleb was a good time to practice not cursing.
Instead, I starting saying "come on people, be nice."
From that day on, we would hear a little voice saying,
"be nice, vroom vrooms."
He corrected the dog and anyone else who would listen.
Scroll down to learn more about SUDC and find a few ways you can be nice too.
Use these templates below to do random acts of kindness and picture
Caleb shaking his index finger and demanding you to "be nice!"
The SUDC Foundation is actively researching the "why" for families like us who have
lost children from toddlers to teenagers without any scientific explanation.
They connect families worldwide who are living this nightmare with us and provide free support and advocacy. We are participants in their Sudden Unexplained Death in Childhood Registry and Research Collaborative (SUDCRRC), which we hope will someday provide answers.
What is SUDC?
Sudden Unexplained Death in Childhood (SUDC) is the sudden and unexpected death of a child 12 months and older which remains unexplained after a thorough case investigation is conducted. This must include; examination of the death scene,
performance of a complete autopsy, and a review of the child and family's medical history.
SUDC is not a diagnosis but a category of death that currently eludes our scientific understanding.
AT THIS TIME NO ONE KNOWS ANY WAYS TO REDUCE THE RISK OF SUDC.
It is unpredictable and unpreventable.
It also receives zero federal funding.
SUDC is NOT SIDS.
(SIDS is a category of death reserved only for babies under 12 months and receives federally funded research.
Although there is no way to prevent SIDS, research has proven helpful in reducing some of the known risks.)
As humans, we want answers. We have a very hard time knowing despite trying to do everything we could to protect Caleb, there is
nothing anyone can tell us we could have done differently that would have changed the outcome. Families who lose a child whose death has been categorized as SUDC have to face that heartbreak every single day. We have already wracked our brains, lost many nights of sleep pondering what we could have missed, and asked a multitude of questions no parent should ever have to utter. Our state does not require autopsies to be performed in these situations once the caregivers have been cleared of wrongdoing, but we hired a forensic pathologist to perform one anyway. If there were answers, we wanted them. A toxicology test was also performed, and police interrogators, detectives, physicians, scientists, specialists, and people with many prestigious titles next to their names have each been just as frustrated as the next.
We don't know why we only got to have Caleb here for two years, two months, and the early hours of his 23rd day. We understand Caleb's death eludes your comprehension as well. However, while we are confident that your curiosities regarding his untimely death are proposed with the best of intentions, suggestions and non-factual theories only add to our agony so we ask that they be kept to yourself.
However, any peer reviewed, scientific articles can be forwarded to the SUDC Foundation at firstname.lastname@example.org
For more information about SUDC, visit www.sudc.org
SUDC occurs in 1.4 deaths per 100,000 children.
Based on 2015 statistics provided by the CDC Wonder Database, those affected by sudden unexplained death, occurred in:
-216 children ages 1-4 years
-38 children ages 5-9
-35 children ages 10-14
-104 teens ages of 15-19 years
Whether you have only your smile to give
or millions, everyone can do something.
"Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible."